How Not to Piss Off a Muslim During Ramadan

Written By Diana O

 

If you live in the U.S. or the U.K., you probably know someone who observes Ramadan, the holy month of fasting, prayer, and reflection for Muslims worldwide. But unless you've lived in a Muslim-majority country (like I did while teaching ESL in Jakarta, Indonesia, home to the largest Muslim population in the world), you might not realize just how much daily life shifts during this time. 

For Muslims, fasting from dawn to sunset means no food, no water, and no bad vibes, seriously, self-restraint is a big part of Ramadan. If you're not fasting, it's easy to be unintentionally insensitive. So, whether you have Muslim coworkers, friends, or neighbors, here are a few things to keep in mind to avoid being that person during Ramadan. 

 Understand that Ramadan isn’t just about fasting. Sure, fasting is the most visible part of Ramadan, but it’s also a time for prayer, charity, and reflection. Muslims are encouraged to be more generous, avoid negative behaviors (like gossiping or arguing), and strengthen their faith. Recognizing the spiritual depth of Ramadan shows respect and understanding.

Living in Jakarta during Ramadan was an eye-opening experience. I saw how an entire city shifts its rhythm for a month and how patience, discipline, and community take center stage. Whether you’re visiting, working, or living in a Muslim-majority country, small acts of consideration can go a long way in showing respect for this sacred time.


1. Don't Eat, Drink, or Brag About Food in Front of Fasting Friends  

Imagine going hours without food or water, and then someone plops down next to you with a burger and fries, loudly talking about how amazing it tastes. Not cool. While Muslims won't expect you to fast, it's polite to be mindful, especially in close settings like offices, classrooms, or group hangouts. 

2. Skip the "I Could Never Do That" Comments

Saying, "Wow, no food or water all day? I'd die!" or “You must be starving,”  isn't the compliment you think it is. Muslims have been fasting since childhood, and they don't need reminders of how hard it sounds. Instead, try saying, "That takes a lot of discipline and respect." 

3. Be Flexible with Plans and Meetings

If you're scheduling work meetings, social events, or dinner plans, keep in mind that fasting Muslims will be breaking their fast at sunset (called iftar). That means early evening meetings are not ideal. If you're inviting a Muslim friend out for dinner, offer to go after sunset so they can eat, too. 

4. Expect a Slight Energy Dip- Especially Late in the Day 

Going without food and water for hours naturally takes a toll. Your Muslim coworker or classmate might be less chatty, move a little slower, or need a break in the afternoon. Be patient and don't take it personally. 

5. Don't Assume All Muslims Fast  

Not every Muslim fasts, some are exempt due to health reasons, pregnancy, travel, or personal choice. If someone isn't fasting, don't ask why. It's private, and they don't owe you an explanation. 

6. Respect the Spiritual Side of Ramadan

Fasting is just one part of Ramadan. Muslims also focus on prayer, charity, and self-improvement. So, if your friend declines a night out, they're probably prioritizing something important. And if they ask for a quiet space to pray at work or school,  supporting them in that is just basic decency. 

7. Eid Is a Big Deal-So Wish Them Well!

Ramadan ends with Eid al-Fitr, a huge celebration with feasting, family gatherings, and gift-giving. If you want to acknowledge it, a simple "Happy Eid!" or "Eid Mubarak!" (pronounced eed moo-bah-rak) goes a long way. 



Diana O
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